SAN KA PA!!!?

See, this is why I'm so in love with Mals. Early on, I knew that whomever I spend my life with she (or he... malay nyo di ba? Just trying to cover all my bases) would have to have a sense of humor. She's going to need it, considering my personality. When I say "sense of humor" though, I don't mean funny. I mean the capacity to look at one's self and not take everything too seriously, the ability to laugh at yourself once in a while, to give yourself a break.

Now I know at this point all of Malou's friends who are reading this are either up in arms violently protesting or laughing their guts out. Well, yeah... Mals does have a prickly side, and its a side most people are normally exposed to. Not to say that's she's a bitch. She's not. This relationship has room for only one bitch and I already have that title (not to say that I'm a bitchy person, but more of... I'm her bitch). She's actually warm and personable... just don't tease her.

Now all the folks who know me are the ones laughing. Why? Kasi malakas akong mang-asar. Believe me, I am no amateur in teasing and needling. If pang-aasar were a martial art, I'd just wouldn't have a black belt. I'd be Bruce F*cking Lee!

Mals and I have looked at this disparity. Together we've discovered the very glaring differences in our lives and personalities, and wonder how and why we ended up together. But in the course of our story part of what we unraveled were the intimate commonalities and values, and small wonderful thoughts and feelings that are alike and when put together form what is essentially a cornerstone of our shared life.

She will always be pikon, and I will always be pang-asar. But we have learned to accept that. In fact, they are the qualities we now look for and miss and love in each other. In the meantime, I have learned to recalibrate my lambing-to-kulit ratio, and she has begun to be more mellow about things that use to get her so worked up...

... and sometimes you can catch her in an unguarded moment where she's laughing at herself, or making a face, and capture it all in a photograph.

^_^